The Energy of “Not Enough”
There are certain patterns I have noticed again and again while doing tarot readings and channeling my clients’ energies since I started my tarot reading business in 2022.
Sometimes we are consciously saying, “I want more. I’m ready for something better. I want to receive more money, love, success, opportunities, freedom, happiness, or abundance.”
But underneath that desire, there can be subconscious choices that are sending a completely different message.
This doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong. It simply means that sometimes our actions reveal beliefs that we haven’t fully recognized yet.
You can say you want abundance while constantly making decisions from scarcity.
You can say you want a new relationship while holding onto a connection because you’re afraid no one else will come along.
You can say you want to grow your business while avoiding the conversation, investment, decision, or action that would actually allow you to expand.
Your conscious mind may say, “I want this.”
Your subconscious choices may quietly say, “But what if I can’t have it?”
And that little gap between what you consciously desire and what you subconsciously believe can be incredibly powerful.
So let’s talk about seven things that may be keeping you from getting your desired results without you even realizing it.
1. Getting Things Only Because They’re Cheap or on Sale
Let me start by saying this: I love a good discount.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting a great deal. Being financially smart, comparing prices, budgeting, and choosing not to overspend can all be wonderful things.
But there is a difference between choosing something because it genuinely feels right for you and choosing something primarily because it is cheap.
If you are constantly choosing the least expensive option, even when it isn't what you actually want, you may want to pause and ask yourself why.
Maybe you wanted the beautiful one, but you bought the cheaper one because you felt guilty spending more.
Maybe you wanted to stay somewhere you genuinely loved, but you chose somewhere else solely because it was cheaper.
Maybe you wanted to invest in something that would genuinely support your business, creativity, appearance, comfort, or lifestyle, but you talked yourself out of it because you decided you should only choose the least expensive option.
Again, this isn't about telling you to spend money you don't have.
This is about noticing the energy behind your decisions.
When every decision is based on price, price can slowly become the authority in your life.
Instead of asking, “What do I actually want?”
You start asking, “What is the cheapest option?”
Instead of asking, “What feels aligned?”
You ask, “What can I justify buying?”
Instead of asking, “What would support the life I want to create?”
You ask, “Can I get away with spending less?”
And over time, you can accidentally teach yourself that what you truly desire is always something you have to compromise on.
You start believing that the things you really want are “too expensive,” “too much,” “unnecessary,” or “not for people like me.”
That is the part I want you to notice.
You may not be consciously telling yourself that you don't deserve what you desire, but your repeated choices can still communicate that message to your subconscious.
This is especially interesting when it comes to abundance.
Abundance isn't necessarily about buying the most expensive thing in the room.
It is about developing the ability to make choices from desire, discernment, and self-trust rather than fear.
Sometimes the aligned choice will be the inexpensive one.
Sometimes it will be the investment.
The point is not to always choose the more expensive option.
The point is to stop automatically choosing based on scarcity.
Try asking yourself:
“If price were not the deciding factor, what would I actually choose?”
You don't necessarily have to buy it.
Just notice your answer.
That answer can reveal a lot about what you truly desire.
And sometimes, the next level isn't about having more money first.
Sometimes it starts with allowing yourself to admit what you actually want.
2. Saying Yes When You Really, Really Want to Say No
This one is huge.
How many times have you said yes while every cell in your body was screaming, “Please don't.”
You say yes because you don't want to disappoint someone.
You say yes because you're afraid they will be upset.
You say yes because you want to be helpful.
You say yes because you don't want to seem difficult.
You say yes because you're afraid that if you say no, the opportunity, relationship, client, friendship, or connection will disappear.
And sometimes you say yes simply because saying no feels uncomfortable.
But every time you say yes to something you genuinely do not want, you are also saying no to something else.
You may be saying no to your time.
No to your energy.
No to your peace.
No to your priorities.
No to the things you actually want to create.
No to yourself.
And I think this is one of the most overlooked forms of self-abandonment.
You don't always abandon yourself through some dramatic decision.
Sometimes you abandon yourself through tiny little yeses.
“Yes, I can do that.”
“Yes, that's fine.”
“Yes, I'll make it work.”
“Yes, don't worry about me.”
“Yes, I don't mind.”
When you actually do mind.
Your body often knows before your mind catches up.
You may feel tension.
You may feel exhausted just thinking about doing the thing.
You may feel irritated.
You may suddenly want to avoid the person.
You may feel that heavy feeling in your stomach.
And then you override all of it because you think you should be nice.
But being kind does not require you to betray yourself.
Having boundaries does not make you selfish.
And saying no does not automatically mean you are rejecting someone.
Sometimes saying no is simply saying yes to the life you are trying to create.
Your desired reality requires space.
If your calendar, relationships, energy, and mind are completely filled with things you don't actually want, where is the space for something new to enter?
You don't have to become cold or unavailable.
You simply have to become more honest.
Before automatically saying yes, try asking yourself:
“If I knew this person would completely understand and there would be no negative consequences, would I still say yes?”
Your answer may tell you everything you need to know.
3. Holding On Because You’re Afraid There’s Nothing Better Out There
This one can be incredibly subtle.
You know something isn't right anymore.
You know the relationship has changed.
You know the situation has run its course.
You know the job isn't fulfilling you.
You know the client isn't aligned anymore.
You know the friendship doesn't feel the way it used to.
You know you have outgrown the environment.
But you keep holding on.
Why?
Because you don't know what happens after you let go.
You think:
“What if I lose this and nothing better comes?”
“What if I regret it?”
“What if I can't find another client?”
“What if I never meet someone else?”
“What if this is the best I can get?”
“What if I leave and everything gets worse?”
This is where scarcity can become incredibly powerful.
You may not actually be choosing the situation anymore.
You may simply be choosing the familiarity of it.
And there is a huge difference.
Sometimes we don't hold on because something is still right for us.
We hold on because losing it feels scarier than staying unhappy.
And this pattern doesn't only show up in our relationships, careers, or major life decisions. It can show up in our everyday choices too.
It can show up in your money habits, the way you spend or save, what you allow yourself to invest in, and what you convince yourself you can or cannot afford.
It can show up in your food, eating, and drinking habits, especially when you repeatedly choose what is familiar, convenient, or what you think you “should” have rather than checking in with what you actually want, need, or enjoy.
It can even show up in the choices you make about your appearance.
Maybe you keep wearing things you don't actually love because you feel like you shouldn't spend money on something new.
Maybe you keep a hairstyle, wardrobe, beauty routine, or personal style that no longer feels like you because changing it feels unnecessary, indulgent, or too much.
Maybe there is a version of yourself you are ready to step into, but you keep presenting yourself as the old version because that is what feels safe and familiar.
And I'm not saying you need to constantly buy new things, change your appearance, spend more money, or consume more to become your next-level self.
That's not the point.
The deeper question is:
Are you making these choices because they are genuinely aligned with you, or because you're afraid to choose differently?
That distinction matters.
Sometimes scarcity doesn't look like having nothing.
Sometimes it looks like never allowing yourself to choose something different because you're afraid of losing what you already have.
But if you constantly keep one hand wrapped around something you have already outgrown, you may not have both hands available to receive what is next.
This doesn't mean you should impulsively quit your job, end every relationship, fire every client, change your entire appearance, or throw everything away because you feel uncomfortable.
Discernment matters.
Practical considerations matter.
But so does honesty.
Ask yourself:
“If I wasn't afraid of what might happen next, would I still choose this?”
That is a very different question.
You may discover that you genuinely want to stay.
Beautiful.
Stay.
Or you may realize that you have been holding on because you are afraid that nothing better exists.
And if that's the case, perhaps the deeper work isn't immediately letting go.
Perhaps the deeper work is learning to trust yourself enough to believe that your current circumstances are not the limit of what is available to you.
There can be something beyond what you can currently see.
There can be a better client.
A better opportunity.
A healthier relationship.
A more aligned environment.
A different way of managing your money.
A more joyful relationship with food and consumption.
A style that feels more like the person you are becoming.
A completely different version of your life.
But you have to be willing to stop treating what you currently have as the maximum amount of love, money, success, support, beauty, pleasure, or happiness you are allowed to receive.
Sometimes your next level begins with something very simple:
allowing yourself to admit that you want something different.
A Little Reflection for You
As you move through this first part of the series, I want you to look at your own life without judging yourself.
Where are you choosing based on price instead of desire?
Where are you saying yes when you desperately want to say no?
Where are you holding on because you're afraid there won't be anything better?
You don't need to change everything today.
Just notice.
Because awareness is powerful.
Sometimes the first step toward a completely different reality is realizing that you have been making decisions from an old version of yourself.
And once you see it, you can choose differently.
You are allowed to want what you actually want.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to outgrow things.
You are allowed to make choices from possibility instead of fear.
And you are allowed to create a life that feels like yours.
In Part 2, we'll talk about the fear of expansion, and two particularly sneaky ways we can unconsciously keep ourselves small even when we're desperate for our next level.
Happy Manifesting. ♡
Hana
